fix: telemetry/memory flag mismatches, doc drift; add CI; self-dogfood

Parallel fleet audit (2 background agents) + direct work:

- src/commands/memory.mjs: `memory put --allow-secrets` was read as
  `flags.allowSecrets` (camelCase) but the CLI parser only emits
  kebab-case keys, so the flag was always undefined/false. Fixed to
  `flags['allow-secrets']`.
- Docs: `lh graph --brief` was referenced 14x across 5 agent.md files,
  harness.instructions.md, 4 SKILL.md files, onboard.prompt.md, and
  README, but `lh graph` has no --brief flag (terse output is already
  the default, --json/--severity are the only flags). Corrected every
  reference to match actual CLI surface.
- .github/workflows/ci.yml: run npm install/validate/test on node 20+22.
- Self-dogfooded `lh init --yes` in this repo, producing .agents/
  (harness.config.json, architecture.md, conventions.md, memory
  shards). `lh doctor` now reports all required checks green.
- Deduped .gitignore harness block against init's auto-managed block.

Verified: 53/53 tests pass, validate 0 errors, doctor all-green.

Co-authored-by: Copilot <223556219+Copilot@users.noreply.github.com>

README.md

@@ -155,7 +155,7 @@ exploration is deliberately pushed onto the cheap tier; only summaries return to
 | --- | --- |
 | `lh init` | First-run wizard → `.agents/harness.config.json` |
 | `lh index [--budget N] [--focus g] [--fetch]` | Token-budgeted tree-sitter repo map |
-| `lh graph [--brief]` | Structural gate. **Exit 1 on violations** |
+| `lh graph` | Structural gate, terse output by default. **Exit 1 on violations** |
 | `lh lane create\|list\|status\|merge\|drop` | Worktree lanes + file-scope leases |
 | `lh run start\|event\|end` | NDJSON telemetry + live board |
 | `lh memory get\|put\|compact\|scan\|list` | Memory shards, compaction, secret scanning |